A Real Urban Mom at the 2014 Bud Billiken Parade!

Let me first say the Bud Billiken Parade this year was amazing! I want to thank the Chicagoland BMOA for inviting me and the kiddos abroad their Ronald McDonald float. We had a blast!

The weather was perfect, nice and sunny! This being the first float I’ve been on did make me a little nervous, I didn’t know what to expect and I didn’t want to do anything embarrassing like fall. Lol. The camera crews were every where and people were snapping pictures all over the place. Even though I kept my smile camera ready, Dereon and Dionne didn’t. I of course had to remind them we may be on TV (which we were) and that them arguing with each other on a float wasn’t safe. Sigh. They eventually got over the disagreement and jumped overly excited once they spotted our family in the crowd!

To see so many people all smiling, waving and cheering you on is such a good feeling. I wish I could bottle it up inside and open it on the days I feel down. Because the experience was wonderful.

Another awesome aspect of this year’s Bud (a Chicago nickname for the parade) was that my teen sister Eboni performed with the South Shore Drill Team. She was decked out in makeup and their custom costumes. It was such a proud moment to see her dance with her group after seeing her practice for months! So kudos to my little Big sister Eb!


The Chicagoland BMOA always invites us to amazing events and I’m blessed to be a part of their blogging family. Please check out their site you will be amazed on how much they do for the black community. 

Here are a few pictures from our experience:


(Thanks Nisha Bonds for this photo!)



Blogger Luvvie and I were Float mates!


The kids chilling under the arch, probally arguing lol.


Told you we were on TV! Lol. (Yes I took a picture of the TV. Haha)

Thanks for all the support, pics, retweets and love!

Washing clothes using natural detergent and common household products!

Cleaning clothes is one chore I actually don’t mind doing. I love the smell of clean clothes. Although I do hate folding. Lol. We have a lot of laundry that I have to tackle so I am always on the look out for quick tips and great products. I am a random chore person which means I don’t have a certain day to do a certain task I just know what I have to do and try to get as much of it done in a day as I can. Even though our household only consist of three people, don’t let that fool you I wash clothes often. Dereon wears uniform to school and then comes home to change into ‘play clothes’ which doubles his weekly load, not including my clothes and my husband’s stuff as well.

So when I was sent Safonique in Lavender Sea with pure essential oils to review I got excited. The detergent comes in a plastic pouch that is 50 fluid ounces and can do 32 loads since it is concentrated times two! Another cool thing about the pouch is that it reduces waste by up to 78% versus standard detergents in rigid platstic containers. The packaging says that it is “The revolution in laundry detergent. Best in clean – best in green!” I couldn’t wait to test it out and see what it really could do.

Once I opened the container I instantly fell in love with the scent. It wasn’t too strong, but you can surely smell the lavender. After the clothes are washed the scent lingers and that’s important to me because I like clothes to smell clean. Another plus is the formula is hypoallergenic and can be used for babies to adults. Also the formula works for standard and high efficiency washers and all water temperatures.

Overall I am very pleased with Safonique. I loved the fact that it is available at Walmart and that the price is only $6.97! The cleaning power is pretty impressive I didn’t have any issues with left over stains and that is shocking because I have an active 7 year old that seems to get stains from anything and everywhere. Safonique has a great lasting smell, thick solution that creates small suds, and its available for a low price. The most important question you probably have is would I buy this again with my own money? Yes, I would buy this brand again with my own money for my family and I.

Quick mommy tip!
In addition to using detergent I always add 1/2 cup of white distilled vinegar to each load. Vinegar helps with stinky smells, stains, and it soften clothes. You can find half a gallon containers of it at any grocery store for about $3. I swear by this technique because its cost effective and extremely helpful. Sometimes we over look common household items and pick stuff with a million different chemicals that dull the colors of our clothes. I encourage you to try different products with fewer chemicals and test them out, you will be surprised!

* I was given this product in exchange for my honest review. All thoughts are my own.

How to style and manage Box Braids (while protecting your natural hair)!

I love weave. Yes, I do! That statement shouldn’t be a surprise to those that follow me on social media. I have hardly no pictures of me wearing my natural locks. The main reason is because I decided to go natural about a year and a half ago after a horrible over processed perm incident. My hair was so thin and damaged I began to transition by growing my hair out without a perm. The two different textures were killing me so I finally cut all my permed hair off June 2013. My husband came in the bathroom and stood in shock. I had about an inch or two of natural hair coiled on the top of my head. I was scared at that point because I couldn’t put my hair in a quick pony or get some of the latest styles out so of course Youtube was my best friend. I begin looking for styles that I could do while growing my natural hair out. I wore sew ins and quick weaves until my hair was long enough for braids and then once I reached braiding length I knew I would be okay in this journey because braids are EVERYTHING!

Fast forward to the present. My natural hair is growing I can put my hair in a pony tail, I can get a sew in, braids, etc. My current obsession has been Box Braids. They are cute, affordable, easy to maintain, and did I say cute already? I have a Chicagoland hair braider that comes to me and does all the latest braid styles. Since I am ‘tender headed’ I dread the process of braids, but love the aftermath.

With me being on a healthy hair journey taking care of my braids as well as my natural hair underneath is very important. I don’t want my protective style to become harmful. I moisturize my hair and tend to my edges every other day because I want to ensure growth. Below is a video on how I take care of my Box braids. Thanks to Natasha from The Houseful of Nicholes for the Dream Kids products!

Disney on Ice presents Princesses & Heroes 2014!

Playing United Center Sept 10-14, 2014 Enter a world of wonder where heroes and hearts prevail. Join Ariel as she yearns to explore the world above the waves and Prince Eric breaks Ursula’s slithering spell to reclaim his one true love. See Prince Philip defeat the evil Maleficent as she transforms herself into a fire-breathing dragon in a race against time to rescue Sleeping Beauty’s Aurora. Be there to discover a whole new world with Jasmine and Aladdin. And, watch in awe as the dreams of Cinderella, Belle, Snow White, Rapunzel and Tiana all come true. High flying jumps, daring acrobatics, breathtaking skating and lovable Disney friends are just a wish away! See Disney On Ice presents Princesses & Heroes where believing is just the beginning! My Readers Save up to 40% on tickets! – Save 40% on all weekday shows and Save 20% on all weekend shows using code MOM. Weekday shows include Thursday evening and Friday matinee shows and weekend includes all shows Friday evening through Sunday evening.


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Why raising a black boy in America is scary

I’m in tears as I write this. I have a 7 year old African American son. And I fear for his life daily. I live in America and I worry that his existence doesn’t mean anything. Of course to his dad and I, my family and friends he is a jewel, he is priceless, and a true blessing. But it seems to the authorities he’s just another black dot. Another piece of a problem race. My son isn’t the only one. Any black male is an issue.

As a mother protecting your child is your number one goal in life. You want to kiss the “boo boos”, soothe the broken hearts, and guide your child to the promise land. However the black mom has more to pile on her plate we must protect our children from not only black on black violence, but the violence thrown on us from the police and government. Police brutality isn’t new it’s been going on for decades, but now since we are in the age of technology and social media the footage and word spreads faster and this time not just with the word of mouth, but also including proof!

When does it stop? I was told the Police were to serve and protect. Not kill, abuse and misuse the innocent. Now please don’t think I’m condemning every police officer in the USA. I know that there are plenty great cops that are actually doing their job correctly, I have police officers in my family that keep the bad guys behind bars and keep watch for the innocent. This isn’t towards them. This is for the police officers that place innocent men in choke holds and don’t let them go even after being told they can’t breathe, the police officers that shoot black kids and men for being black like Michael Brown, Sean Bell, Oscar Grant, and countless others. It’s for the police officers that use their guns because they are cowards. Let our children live! Give them a chance to prove society wrong. Let our men come back homes to their wives and children. Stop killing the innocent.

It’s a scary time here in America for African Americans. Not only do we have to pray our kids don’t fall victim to the black on black crime issue that is gong on, but we also have to make sure they our kids and men don’t succumb to being an innocent victim killed by the police. As a mother and a wife I fear for my son and my husband. As a young black man he’s always being harassed by the police even when he’s with my son and I. I always tell him to be “calm and do whatever they say.” The motto when dealing with the police as a black male has to be “No matter what it is they say do just do it.” Why should we follow their every command? Because if not he may get shot and killed. It sounds barbaric, but welcome to 2014.

My tears fall for the black boys and men that have been shot and killed by the same force that’s being paid to protect us. My tears fall for every mother that had to bury their innocent child. My tears fall for a nation that is supposedly built on freedom for all. My tears fall for the unanswered pleas of many to live.

This has to stop…