5 reason you should attend the 2014 Black Women’s Expo!

Weekends are normally crazy for me and my family due to birthday parties, other random events, quality family time, and church. It’s a whirlwind sometimes and then it’s back to reality on Monday. No break in between. But I have learned to schedule things that are important to me and my family and to “waitlist” other activities. This upcoming weekend there was so much going on and I had to say no to most of it because I have dedicated this weekend to the 2014 Black Women’s Expo. I wanted to spend this weekend on working on me. So here are 5 reasons on why YOU should attend the Black Expo:

1. The expo is geared for women like you. African American women that are on a mission to achieve more. The vendors, speakers, and entertainers are there specially for you.

2. If you buy your admission ticket from Walgreens the price is HALF OFF! That’s right only $10.

3. The speaker round up is truly amazing. So much knowledge under one roof. Check it out here

4. The Expo is perfect for weekend fun with your girlfriends, your mom, or even your daughter.

5. I will be there! Yes, that’s right I am one of the official bloggers for the 2014 Black Women Expo! I will be live tweeting and blogging from the Expo. And I would love to see you and take a #selfie =)

Those are the 5 reasons you should be in attendance at the Black Women’s Expo this weekend. I hope this has convinced you to come on down and be a part of a history!

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When your kid gets hurt and you feel like a loser…

Yesterday Dereon fell. Pretty hard. He was playing with his friends that happen to be our neighbors and he tripped and hit the concrete. Hard. He came home screaming and yelling. All the other children silently walked behind him with worry filled eyes. The left side of his face was swelling as he walkws up the back porch stairs.

After further inspection Dereon had scratches and big bruise right under his eye. His godmommy who is an RN was here and she told us to get an ice pack while she looked at the swelling. The ice pack did get the puffiness down. But now his face was beet red. Dereon was quiet at this point just staring at us with puppy eyes. I gave him some advil to reduce the pain and that really helped make him relax. We watched Robocop together and he was able to doze off.

But I was a mess. My husband told me to calm down. He kept trying to explain to me that boys fall and get hurt. Yeah other boys fall and get hurt, but not my baby:( Well apparently my son was included in that scenario now. I felt like a bad mom. But how could I have prevented him from falling? Maybe I should have made him stay in. Was this all my fault? A million different thoughts came across my mind (which none was positive) and then I finally sighed. The deed was done. What’s the point of beating myself up? Dereon would be OK. Looking like Rocky for a few days won’t be fun, but thank God it wasn’t worse. He could have needed stitches or serious medical care, but he didn’t. 

I kissed my mini Rocky and tucked him in the bed and laid next to my restfully sleeping husband and thanked God for keeping my baby from serious harm. I asked Him for a quick healing and then I was able to sleep.

When I woke up this morning I wanted to see Dereon’s face. I wanted him to be back to 100%. Of course he wasn’t, but his eye wasn’t horrendous. I smiled and kissed his forehead.  He will be OK and so will I.

I wanted to share this because I know that sometimes as mothers when our children get hurt we feel like losers, but all that matters is that we are there to reassure our children that everything will be OK and that in the midst of the chaos things could be worse. So don’t feel down mom, you are your kid’s Super Hero! You are meant to kiss the boo boos and make things normal again even if your once baby face baby looks like Rocky Balboa 🙂

BMOA Night at the Chicago Bulls game

About two weeks ago the family and I headed to BMOA Night at the Chicago Bulls game. The Bulls VS. The Golden State Warriors. It’s was Dereon and Dionne’s first NBA game. We were able to sit courtside for the pregame warm up which was really cool because you see the players relaxed and in real form. We were able to see Joakim Noah really up close plus Jimmy Butler, and Tony Snell. Dereon was in dog heaven, even though he isn’t a real big Basketball fan he watches the Bulls games with his dad so he is aware of the big stars of the team.

If you aren’t familiar with The Chicagoland BMOA you should check them out here. They sponsor so many Chicagoland events and youth projects.

We had a great night and the Bulls won! Check out some of our picture highlights of that night:

The 2014 Black Women’s Expo is coming…

Hey ladies!

Yes, it’s that time again! The 2014 Black Women’s Expo is on it way to hit the McCormick Place Next weekend. Friday March 28th thru March 30th. I think the most exciting part is that this year marks it’s 20th year anniversary. I have many memories of attending the Expo with my mom when I was a preteen and teenager. Seeing so many different ideas in one place, so many different companies represented, and so many powerful black women under one roof. Just amazing.

Now as an adult I am eager to learn more and soak up the energy from some of the movers and shakers of my generation. I checked out the schedule and it’s packed with great seminars, entertainment, and fun. Here is the 3 day schedule

Very impressive line up! Good Morning America’s Robin Roberts is the Keynote Speaker for Saturday afternoon. Mary Mary’s Erica Campbell will be gracing the stage and so much more. Lastly, if you buy your tickets from Walgreens the tickets will be HALF OFF! So no excuses. Let’s get empowered!

For up to date information please follow The Black Women’s Expo on social media:
The hashtag is #bwe

Gather your girlfriends up and head to the 20th Anniversary Black Women’s Expo!

Decluttering Challenge: Week 1 Recap


It has been a week since I’ve started this Decluttering Challenge and I have to say so far so good! Don’t get me wrong it started off rough, I had to get use to focusing on one thing or a certain amount of time. 30 minutes doesn’t sound like much, but when there are many different things going on it is easy to quit one thing and start something else, or just taking a nap:).

I started off in the kitchen and it took me about two days to get the kitchen where I wanted it. I still have to finish off the cabinets, but I’m waiting until my husband is off from work to help me tackle it. I have have spent more than 2 hours each day in the kitchen. I then tackled Dereon’s room I sorted out the clothes he no longer can fit, the summer from the fall clothes, and little toys and objects that had taken over his dresser. I still have to work on his closet.

I have not started the “master” bedroom because I am dedicating all of next week, yes ALL of my decluttering time next week for that special project.

Overall I’m so happy I’ve started this challenge and as odd as it may sound I have found out so much about myself and my family since starting the journey. It’s very important to remember that it’s OK to giveaway and throw away items. I promise you will thank me later. Until next week…

March Decluttering Challenge

I’m not an hoarder (makeup hoarding doesn’t count lol) but I have some areas of clutter that I want to get rid of.  I always say I’m going to get to the bottom of it and it hardly ever happens. So I’ve decided to challenge myself! That’s right…A CHALLENGE!! For the month of March the word “later” or “tomorrow” will not be acceptable when it relates to clutter. I’m committing to decluttering a space for at least 30 minutes daily for the whole month of March. Some areas may only need 30 minutes others will need longer, but I’m pacing myself so that I can be assured it’s going to get done.

Why only 30 minutes you ask? Well because to say an hour each day I will declutter would be an hard goal to accomplish. We all have busy lives and an hour is pretty long when you have more important things to do like cook, pick up the kids from school, work, and most importantly sleep. Now don’t get me wrong I know that I will have days where I’m cleaning and decluttering for longer then 30 minutes and that’s fine, but some days I will tap out at 30 minutes.

Here are some of the areas I plan on working on:
1. The kitchen cabinets (my husband will be partnering with me on this since I’m short and can’t reach all the cabinets, plus he’s the cook of the house.)
2. My makeup collection (pray my strength in The Lord!)
3. Dereon’s room (targeting clothes that are too small, broken toys, books he no longer reads, etc.)
4. The master bedroom (targeting clothes that aren’t being worn, old stuff, old paper work, etc.)
5. Bathroom medicine cabinet/closet (removing old products, almost empty containers, beauty and skin items that we don’t use.)

I’m super excited to start this journey because a clutter free house has more peace and less chaos. Here are the rules:
1. I will “check in” on Facebook daily after I’ve done my 30 minutes of decluttering.
2. I have until midnight every day to get my 30 minutes complete.
3. I will do a weekly blog post on my progress and over all impression.
4. I will encourage others to join this challenge with me!! (Yes, you have some decluttering to do!)

You should join A Real Urban Mom On this 30 minute Decluttering Challenge for the month of March! You can “check in” on the Facebook page daily after completing your decluttering for the day and have an accountability partner (ME!) on this journey to a clutter free home and mind. If you are down for the cause let’s start this journey together!